Have you ever known that something is beneficial yet still struggle to do it?
I can relate. We often know the things that are good to do and apply in our lives; yet sometimes doubt creeps in or we just get out of the habit.
It can happen in any area of lives. Whilst we may know that doing a specific thing is valuable (say, stopping and listening to our partner or exercising for our health), we still might opt for an easy ‘out’.
And then we fall out of love with it. Falling in love with the process is more do-able than it may at-first seem.
I’m using this phrase ‘falling in love’ because it can help us get a feeling for the idea behind this handy concept. When we’re used to a process, we might end up feeling ‘meh’ about it. It can be challenging to walk on a day when it’s rainy, cold or even too hot. It can be taxing to listen attentively. Yet, we can decide to be open to the concept of seeing the challenge we’re facing, whatever it might be, anew 1.
What are ways we can do this – that actually work?
One is asking someone who we trust, who’s experienced in the area we’re looking at, what they recommend. Perhaps we seek out new resources. The one that works for me every time, it to remind myself of how I feel when whatever I’ve been putting off is done. This then provides the boost I need to actually get on and do it.
So, what breaks the spell and gets you falling in love with the process again? I’d love to hear .
1 In “Change the Way You Look at Things and the Things You Look at Change,” Michael Michalko points out that “the perception of the observer depends upon the observer’s own assumptions and perceptions. That is not to say we experience totally different things but different aspects of things.” When we change how we look at things, we can fall back in love with them.
Fi Jamieson-Folland D.O., I.N.H.C., is The LifeStyle Aligner. She’s an experienced practitioner since 1992 in Europe, Asia and New Zealand as a qualified Osteopath, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, speaker, educator, writer, certified raw vegan gluten-free chef, and Health Brand Ambassador.