What is it that spins your wheels?
Rather than adding to my seemingly-endless to-do list as I used to, I’ve shifted my focus to my priorities. Namely, the things that really inspire me and get me moving from inside. Things that I would do whether I was rewarded in some way or not, perhaps with compliments, a thank you or with money.
These are those things that I would do regardless.
It’s a personal thing, however, much like our fingerprint.
It’s specific and 100% unique.
This is our first step – getting clear about what gets us moving and that we don’t need external influence to have us do. This is the inspiration that comes from within as opposed to motivation. We can attend a marvelous talk and come away feeling ‘that was really amazing!’ however, if I’m relying on something outside of me to get me moving, I’m in trouble (thanks to one of my mentors Dr John Maxwell for this wise gem!)
You’ll find plenty of vlogs/blogs I’ve published on this hot topic of focus (check out the blogs archive on my website), and one of the top tips you’ll find we cover multiple times is to write down our goal (if we’re focusing in on what moves us – ie. our goal) in the present tense as if it’s already happened, to write it as ‘I’ rather than ‘you’ and to put it in the positive (rather than what we do not want).
A really useful phrase for me to use to word my goal, and I’ve found over the years that it’s served me and many of my clients well, is ‘I am so happy and grateful that it is on or before X (date) and I am experiencing X feeling/object etc.’
Another tip – A classic example are those clients I partner with who are interested in reaching a particular weight goal . It’s a trap to focus on ‘losing weight’, because our subconscious minds filter out the negative words – and we end up instead focusing on wanting weight in general (the opposite of what we do want!)
For most people it’s actually more about perhaps fitting into a favourite item of clothing eg jeans.
Whatever it may be, it’s about declaring it in a positive way, in the present tense, as ‘me’ or ‘I’ and as if it’s already happened.
The third tip is to have a plan to get there and that might mean researching. It might mean brainstorming with friends and even deciding to get yourself a coach.
When we think about athletes who choose to be at the top of their game, do they rely on the odd self-help book here and there, or do they commit?
What exactly would that be worth to us, to be creating a viable income from home, or being our best selves when it comes to enjoying quality relationships including with our significant partner, with friends + family and with business colleagues?
When it comes to our physical health, what would an established healthy eating habit, for example, be worth to our longevity?
Is having a performance coach and subsequent top results only reserved for the elite athletes, or is it something we could all consider?
I know what I think – I’m curious to hear your thoughts.
See you on this week’s #AlivewithFi and until then, ciao for now 🙂
Fi Jamieson-Folland D.O., I.N.H.C., is The LifeStyle Aligner. She’s an experienced practitioner since 1992 in Europe, Asia and New Zealand as a qualified Osteopath, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, speaker, educator, writer, certified raw vegan gluten-free chef, and Health Brand Ambassador.