Applying this easy-to-remember concept in my life has been a major help, in multiple ways – from the way I see situations I find myself in, to my ability to handle challenges.
To explain – this is when the day isn’t necessarily going our way, or something we’re on tender hooks about didn’t go as we’d prefer, we can find ways to deal with those times that don’t go our way.
This approach can also help us cultivate more resilience and compassion so that we can create the space to be (and actually live our lives as) the person we want to be. For example, I know I choose to be generous, patient, thoughtful, responsive, attentive, kind, and caring as a base-line way of being.
I’ve learned that one step I know I need to take to do this is to pause and think about the possible outcome. Meaning if I were to do X, then what would that look like afterwards? This question helps me clarify if that’s my best option, and also starts the process of manifesting this outcome in my life.
Another tool is to nudge myself in the right direction is to reflect on the words that one of my dear mentors shared with me: I choose to do within when I’m doing without. This helps me remember that when the situation isn’t ideal, it’s an open doorway for me to grow (if I choose to step up and do that).
And lastly, a useful phrase I sometimes say is, ‘yes! – that’s me’. This is when I do something well, or I’m recognised for an achievement, I accept that intentionally rather than treating my success as a fluke. This affirmation helps me recognise my own value.
These practices are centered around helping us focus on what we do want, to look to the future, accept our present circumstances, and honor who we’re being and what we’re doing well.
My belief is that it all starts with us, rather than with anything around us. 1
Until then please do keep sharing your sunshine 🙂
1 Things not being ideal for us can be the best trigger for us to focus on our perspective and attitude – “If you want to change reality start with yourself first and attend to your own personal development.” When we focus on what we can do within ourselves, This is where the magic happens.
If You Want to Change the World, Start With Yourself First”
“18 Ways to Strengthen and Develop Your Intuition”
T. Fahkry, (2018)
Fi Jamieson-Folland D.O., I.N.H.C., is The LifeStyle Aligner. She’s an experienced practitioner since 1992 in Europe, Asia and New Zealand as a qualified Osteopath, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, speaker, educator, writer, certified raw vegan gluten-free chef, and Health Brand Ambassador.